# Gender Queer Book:

How it manages to introduce sexual concepts like bodily pleasure and engaging in sex acts with new partners
## Sex as Love
- Performed as an ideallic sexual ritual
- de-eroticized: adults who don't want to mimic the real life situations they fantasize about, but choose to focus on the fantasy itself        
  - remove the carnal element in the depiction
  - sanitized, cerebral           
  - sex presented as a means of learning other things

## Provocation
- for conservatives to demonstrate ignorance
  - convincing to those who aren't very familiar with the material
  - convincing to activists
- the most gratuitous illustration in the book is also the least offensive
  - women performing oral sex with a strap-on
  - no real pleasure
  - partner is uninterested, and vocalizes it     
  - performer responds with care and understanding, again showing the situation as not sexual but as part of the ideallic ritual of becoming enlightened as embodied creatures