For when you have been pressured and chastized by your peers and social surroundings continuously to adopt a morally-acceptable identity but the only ones suitable for a white or white-presenting youngster are Queer, and you are concerned that your parents might have concerns about the prospect of:
How ironic that the narrative surrounding the need for Queer identity is predicated on a supposed refusal to conform, but the adoption of any collective identity is itself only possible to undertake through conformity?
The other problem here is that children are intelligent enough to notice a contradiction, but not experienced or knowledgeable enough to be able to thoroughly decode and explain it. They are, thus, making normalizing the ignoring of contradictions