Gender Queer Book:

How it manages to introduce sexual concepts like bodily pleasure and engaging in sex acts with new partners

Sex as Love

Performed as an ideallic sexual ritual
de-eroticized: adults who don't want to mimic the real life situations they fantasize about, but choose to focus on the fantasy itself
- remove the carnal element in the depiction
- sanitized, cerebral
- sex presented as a means of learning other things

for conservatives to demonstrate ignorance
- convincing to those who aren't very familiar with the material
- convincing to activists
the most gratuitous illustration in the book is also the least offensive
- women performing oral sex with a strap-on
- no real pleasure
- partner is uninterested, and vocalizes it
- performer responds with care and understanding, again showing the situation as not sexual but as part of the ideallic ritual of becoming enlightened as embodied creatures